11 Undeniable Signs You’re in a Karmic Relationship (And How to Deal)
A karmic relationship is a passionate relationship that is full of turbulence. Karmic relationships are related to karma in a sense because they are thought of as relationships that we need in our lives in order to grow. These relationships test us and our understanding of love and relationships. The thinking goes that karmic relationships evolve out of unresolved issues in a past life. These relationships teach you lessons and point you in the right direction. Karmic relationships can feel all consuming and magnetic, but are often characterized by high highs and low lows. People often mistake karmic relationships for soulmate relationships because of the intense feelings that both partners feel at the very beginning of the relationship. But unlike soulmate relationships, karmic relationships are not meant to be and are often very short loved.
These relationships often start in a whirlwind, and can end just as quickly as they started. While karmic relationships can feel intoxicating in the early stages, they are often not healthy in the long-term, and often don’t last long-term to begin with. Karmic relationships (unless they fundamentally change) are doomed to fail. Karmic relationships have patterns of break up and make up. In the early stages, patterns are able to easily overlook each other’s flaws and believe that they are destined to be with their new partner. Couples that are in karmic relationships often don’t realize that they are in one, which can cause them to feel frustrated when things do not work out, because they feel very compatible with their partner, despite being obviously unsuitable. Karmic relationships can be emotionally exhausting, so it’s important to recognize the signs of a karmic relationship so that you can get out. Here are 10 undeniable signs that you are in a karmic relationship.
When you are in a karmic relationship, you might feel as if you have an instant connection to your new partner. Whether it’s love at first sight, some immediate chemistry or a more low-key feeling at the beginning of the relationship, you will likely feel very drawn to your partner from a very early point in the relationship. This is because the two of you may have met in a past life and are being drawn together through karma and energy. This explains why you instantly bond or have things in common.
Lots of drama
In addition to an early connection, karmic relationships are characterized by lots of drama and emotions. The instant connection that brought you and your partner together will bring a lot of other emotions to the relationship that can create a lot of drama. This drama is often what causes the break up/make up cycle that is typical of karmic relationships. While it’s almost impossible to avoid all drama in a relationship, most healthy relationships have a minimal amount of drama. If you and your partner are constantly having drama, this is an undeniable sign of a karmic relationship.
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You feel addicted
Because of the instant connection you feel in a karmic relationship (and sometimes because of the drama), the relationship can feel addicting. You and your partner were drawn to each other for a reason, and this reason keeps you in the relationship, even if you recognize that it is unhealthy.
Lots of highs and lows
The drama of karmic relationships can create a lot of highs and lows. You and your partner might be a great fit for one another on the surface, which can lead to high highs and lots of fun and passion. But because you are not truly compatible for one another, these highs will peak and become very low points, that are often characterized by drama, fighting and breaking things off. These highs and lows are the part of the relationship that can teach you a lot about yourself and your needs in a relationship moving forward. Remember that karmic relationships are often about learning, so even if these highs and lows are exhausting, they are teaching you a lot about your tolerance, wants and needs in a relationship.
Karmic relationships often inspire a lot of codependency in couples. In the early stages, you may feel so drawn to each other that you develop a codependency, and lose sight of your personality aside from the relationship. Codependency looks like spending every minute of the day together, looking to your partner to help make decisions, and forgoing your natural instincts (or wants/needs) to appease your partner. Codependency is unhealthy and can lead to other unhealthy habits in a relationship. If you and your partner are codependent, this is a sign that you are in a karmic relationship.
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Brings out the worst in you
As we have mentioned before, karmic relationships are not healthy relationships. In a healthy relationship, partners lift each other up and make each other better. In karmic relationships, the worst often comes out in people. This is because partners are fearful of losing what they have or fearful of a high in the relationship turning into a low. This can cause feelings of jealousy and possessiveness in addition to other, toxic feelings and qualities.
Never feel settled
Because karmic relationships are such a whirlwind of highs and lows, people never feel completely settled down. In a healthy relationship, as you get to know your partner better and better you become more comfortable around one another and slowly start to let your guard down. This doesn’t happen in karmic relationships, which can cause partners to feel on edge and as if they are always on the defense, waiting for something to go wrong in the relationship.
Fearful of how it ends
The feeling of never feeling settled in the relationship can also lead partners to constantly feel fearful of how the relationship will end. Karmic relationships are volatile and unpredictable which means that what starts out as a little disagreement can get blown into a relationship-ending dispute. If you feel as if you are always “waiting for the shoe to drop” in your relationship, then this is a sign that you are in a karmic relationship.
Karmic relationships are also characterized by repetitive behavior. This type of repetitive behavior often leads to having the same fights over and over again. Remember that couples in karmic relationships are not necessarily that compatible, which can lead to lots of disagreements and mismatched behaviors and expectations. Being in a relationship is hard even when you are super compatible with your partner, so the incompatibility associated with karmic relationships leads to tons of fights (often over the same thing over and over again), which leads to the make up break-up cycles that we have talked out.
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You feel exhausted
Karmic relationships are completely exhausting, emotionally, mentally and even physically. We often discount how difficult it is to be in a constant state of drama, disagreements and fear that the relationships are going to end. The uneasiness and volatility associated with karmic relationships can take a toll on people’s emotional, mental and physical health and they try and deal with the stress of the bad relationship. If your relationship is causing you to feel completely worn out, this is a sign that you are in a karmic relationship.
It does not last
One of the most undeniable signs of a karmic relationship is when it inevitably comes to an end. Karmic relationships are not the real deal and will not stand the test of time. The volatility, the drama and the general surface level compatibility will eventually end the relationship, even if partners have tried their hardest to keep it alive. After a couple of break ups and make-ups, the relationship will naturally come to a total end. Karmic relationships are supposed to end, because they are supposed to serve as a teaching relationship in your life.
If these signs sound all too familiar, and you think that you might be in a karmic relationship, it’s important for you to make a plan to leave the relationship. Though karmic relationships are not necessarily abusive, a lot of the things that characterize karmic relationships (codependency, frequent fighting, feeling uneasy in the relationship) can become abusive if they are left unchecked. Karmic relationships are meant to teach you about your relationship with relationships and other people. They are not supposed to last forever, unless they are able to evolve into a more healthy and balanced relationship. Relationships should be fulfilling and bring joy to your life, anything aside from that is just not worth your time. If you think that you are in a karmic relationship, consider turning to Relish, a relationship coaching app. The relationship coaches at Relish can help you identify whether or not you are in a karmic relationship, and help provide steps to salvage the relationship (it IS possible) or get out of the relationship all together. It can be very hard to assess your relationship from the inside, which is why using Relish can help offer important perspective about your relationship.
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