There wasn’t any explosive fight or huge issue that prompted Christine to start looking for help with her relationship… it was mostly enduring the grind of everyday life that left her little energy, time, and emotional space to invest in her relationship…
Nothing is ‘wrong’ in my relationship. We don’t fight that much, we communicate pretty openly, and we have sex once or twice a week. But our spark isn’t really there any more. We don’t feel excited or giddy about each other the way we used to. We don’t do many things that deviate from our normal routines, and we’re both really tired and just unmotivated to do anything to change it. We’re the exact definition of being in a rut. Which was why when I downloaded Relish, I had really low expectations. I thought to myself ‘The best case scenario is I develop a couple good habits or it helps us connect again, but it’s unlikely.’
Cut to: our first lesson. I was asked to tell my partner the first three things I noticed about him when we met. I told him that when we were introduced (at a bar) that I thought he was tall, charming, and had a nice smile. He laughed and we talked about that night and reminisced on some stories we hadn’t thought of in a while. And then he started talking about what he noticed about me first, and he went into detail about how nervous he was to call me, and how he thought he lost my number but his roommate found it under the couch. These were ALL stories I had never heard before!! I was in shock. We laughed and talked for an entire night about the good old days, and reconnected just by strolling down memory lane. Here I thought we knew everything about each other after thousands of conversations over the years, and then boom – one Relish lesson and I’m learning things I’d never known before.
Here I thought we knew everything about each other after thousands of conversations over the years, and then boom – one Relish lesson and I’m learning things I’d never known before.
The app has given us a portal into how to communicate with each other again. We’re excited to talk about new things, we plan adventures and just mix it up with new activities that the app gives us with those Date Night ideas. We liked one lesson we got so much, about having a monthly ‘executive’ meeting, that now we have them every month at the first of the month. We talk about high-level issues like our finances, our mortgage, etc, and we talk about fun things like where we want to travel and where we think our careers will be in 5 years. Relish has just injected fun and excitement back into our relationship and we couldn’t be more grateful. I tell everyone about it, and I say that if you can’t afford therapy (who can) this is the next best thing. On some levels I like it even more, because it keeps everything in one place for me: my journaling, my history, our progress, my lessons. I don’t know where we’d be without it – wait, actually, I do. We’d be doing exactly what we’d been doing our whole relationship… and we’d both be hoping for something better.