Derek

After a breach of trust, Derek and his wife are “pre-separated.” They live in the same house but not the same room, and Derek is desperate to repair their damage to make things right between them again. He was looking for couples therapists in their area but couldn’t get past the cost and the awkwardness, so he started looking for alternates. That’s when he found Relish…

Things between us were at our lowest low when I found Relish. I had just found out, like a month earlier, that my wife had been having an affair. Of course I was hurt and all the normal emotions that accompany that news, but the worst part was that she didn’t seem really apologetic or sorry. It was kind of like she didn’t want to work on things anymore. I’ll be the first to tell you that things had been really bad between us for almost two years, but I was shocked she didn’t want to fight for what we had.

After failed attempts at finding therapists for us to go to and getting my wife on board, I decided that the first step would be for me to stop focusing on her or our relationship and turn the focus inside. I wanted to ask myself some tough questions, including whether or not I even wanted to be in this relationship anymore, and I started buying self-help books. I guess my Amazon activity made me a prime candidate for Relish because one day I saw an ad that said I could use it as a ‘therapy tool,’ and I decided to give it a try.

It’s unbelievable. The lessons make me extremely tuned in to my relationship and give me actual advice on how I can change my behavior and start doing things right. Eventually I told my wife about the app, and she said she was interested in trying it. There’s enough room to do things individually on the app, and there’s also a lot of opportunity for us to do things together. We’ve both been in touch with our own coaches, and they have prescribed us lessons that address trust directly. 

It’s unbelievable. The lessons make me extremely tuned in to my relationship and give me actual advice on how I can change my behavior and start doing things right.

We’ve also worked through lessons that address our own issues – things that we need personally, things that give us advice based on our attachment style, etc. It has let me get in her head without actually getting into her head and we are both able to communicate a lot more productively, having fewer fights, and talking about the future for the first time in a long time. I think it’s a long road ahead of us but one thing is for sure: neither of us is deleting the app.