You and your partner have been through.... a lot. Whether an affair or a serious breach of trust, it can feel like you literally got dragged through hell. And in order to move past this darker chapter into better days, forgiveness is necessary. That begins with responsibility. Whether it was you or your partner: the partner who engaged in an affair has to take ownership for their actions, and the pain it inflicted on your relationship. In Helping Couples Get Past The Affair, experts Baucom, Snyder, and Gordon recommend that the best way to get these points across is in a lengthy, thoughtful letter.
You can create a relationship that is stronger than it was before.
If you and your partner make the effort, it is not only possible, but likely that you will both rebuild a sense of trust, safety, and security within your relationship. And by fueling the future with healthy communication, you can create a relationship that is stronger than it was before.