Engage In A Little *Choreplay* With your partner Tonight
You Can't Do Chores & Have Sex At The Same Time
Did you know that those dirty dishes in the sink are messing with your sex life? Well, not directly. But there is a lot to say about the connection between shared responsibilities and how they affect the energy in your home. And how the energy in your home can influence you and your partner's potential for "getting in the mood." So, yeah, chores could very well unlock a whole new world of sexual opportunity — you just have to do them.
Chores could very well unlock a whole new world of sexual opportunity — you just have to do them.
According to author and marriage expert Sheri Stritof, "Stress levels increase in your home when either one of you is unhappy about unfinished chores. Couples fight over who does what around the house almost as much as they fight over money." If we're learning that these collections of small tasks are such a sensitive topic, how can we lean into it? How do we use this obvious fuse to light fireworks instead of letting it burn down our relationship?
Choreplay, that's how.
Less Time On Chores = More Time For Sex
The idea that folding some laundry can lead directly to sex is a little bit farfetched (not totally crazy, though). As with most things in life, it's less about the chores themselves and more about what the chores represent. The core idea is that by being assertive about knocking out the things that make your partners' blood boil, we can shift the energy in our relationship. And if creating a shift in the energy means being a little turned on, then so be it.