We’ve all heard that “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” but in truth, maintaining closeness when you have a geographical disadvantage can be really hard, no matter how devoted you and your partner are to one another. Research shows that slipping on a pair of rose-colored glasses contributes to long-term, long-distance success.
The Pros of Gossip and Idealization
When it comes to relationships, words like “gossip” and “idealization” don’t sound very promising. Idealizing your partner (aka holding them up on a pedestal) could be problematic, as could focusing on small talk and gossip. But according to Ji-yeon Lee and Carole Pistole, researchers from Purdue University, it’s actually the opposite for LDRs. They studied couples in geographically distant relationships and found that both of these practices can actually strengthen long-distance love.
Research shows that slipping on a pair of rose-colored glasses contributes to long-term, long-distance success.
“In general, emotional self-disclosure elicits the partner’s disclosure and understanding, which may lead the person to idealize the partner and relationship.” Ultimately, if you idealize your partner, you’re more likely to overlook their flaws. What’s more, gossip bridges the gap and keeps you both in the loop, especially if one of you is permanently stationed largely around your circle of family and friends.